Just Paddle Your Own Boat

You are the only one who can create for you.
You are the only one responsible for you.
Most of us can get to these points with fairly little resistance.
We sometimes have a harder time marrying our creation with the creation of others. We want to “fix” other people, and the honest truth is they aren’t broken.

We think, well, I can see where your life is going wrong, now just do what I tell you and you’ll be fine.
The truth is, you are not responsible for them – never were.

Sure, as a parent, you are the person who feeds your child, but beyond that, their choices are their choices. You can guide them, but eventually they will grow up, and you won’t be able to control them.
Know that it’s all good, and allow everyone the freedom of their choices.
Besides, just as the only person who can change you is you, the only person who can change them, is them.

Think of life like a small boat.
You can go wherever you want to, but when you cruise up next to someone else and try to paddle their boat, not only can you not do it, but your boat has now become wobbly.
Your attempt to paddle their boat has caused yours to rock.

You cannot create your boss being nicer to you.
All you can do is be who you are, and release the rest.
Ever heard the one about the bird that gets let go of but winds up coming back?
It’s like that.
Let go of the idea that you have to change people.
Allow them the freedom to choose what they want.

It’s like Gandhi said, “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”
Be that change for you.
When you can let go of paddling everyone else’s boat, I think you’ll find the river is a much easier place to flow.

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